Are you an introverted mom?
Being a mom and introvert can sometimes be like being a paraplegic and trying to balance on a tightrope.
Seems impossible right?
Thing is, you can be a good mom and an introvert at the same time. But you just have to be willing to accept the fact that you are an introvert.It is possible to be an introvert and a good mom at the same time. Click To Tweet
If you are not sure if you are an introverted mom, here’s a few things to consider.
6 Signs You May Be An Introverted Mom
You can't wait to put them on the school bus in the morning
If you jump out of the bed more excited about the fact that your kids are leaving the house, and not with you, than you are about your overall day, you may be an introverted mom.
I know I can not be the only mom who looks forward to the moment when my school age children are out the door and the last bus has pulled off.
If I am lucky, my stay at home kid is still sleep for at least another hour. Leaving me feeling like I have won the mom lottery. Quiet time!
Bedtime is your favorite time of day
If after dinner, you are watching the clock to see how long until baths and bed. You may be an introverted mom.
My favorite time of day is bed time. Even on the weekend.
While my rule is that when I (we) go to bed all kids must also be in bed. There are many Friday and Saturday nights that they go to be before us still.
My oldest two have gotten the memo. Leave mom alone, she leaves us alone. So around dark, little people will start simmering down. Talking less. Being still. Basically finding ways to entertain themselves. Because they know, one wrong move and they are being sent off to their respective quarters.
The little one hardly ever makes it to that point. By daybreak, he has aggravated the whole house to the point there is nowhere left for him to go but bed.
I make everyone take baths and prepare themselves for bed. So that when we reach that point, there is no excuse. GOOD NIGHT is all that is left to be said.
You have a planned playlist for the rides so you can hopefully ride in a no-talk zone
I realize that car rides alone are a thing of the past. Especially now that I am home full time. I at least use to have my ride in and from work when I was still going to the office.
But just because there are people in the car with me does not mean I can not have a nice quiet ride listening to music that
I love is appropriate for kids. And I actually hear my own thoughts.
If you are like me, you have a playlist ready to put on blast and to keep them quiet for the ride. I'm just saying, you might be an introverted mom.
When the sun is out, so are your kids
When I was younger, if it was warm outside, then that is where all the kids were and wanted to be. Parents would have the house to themselves for hours, only having to check on us to make sure we were safe and doing what we were supposed to be doing.
These modern day kids will sit in the house all day if you let them even when the sun is out.
Last month, my kids were tracked out (on a break from year round school). We had 70 degree weather. Seventy degrees in February. And my middle kid is asking to watch Netflix. No sir, No you will not watch Netflix. Do you see all that sun outside? Go play with it. Buh-bye!
Sound familiar? Hey introvert!
You dream different
I use to dream of vacations on beaches and going to new places. Because back then, I had plenty of quiet time and time to myself.
Now. Ha, now I dream of a quiet house. I dream of a weekend, let alone a night, where there are no people calling my name, asking for sammiches, arguing over nothing, and making noise.
If I woke up on my own, rather than to a little person knocking at my door saying “I am ready for my breakfast”, I might think the world was coming to an end.
A quiet bath is your sanctuary
If you put those kids to bed, run you some bath water, light a candle and turn on your best chill music at the end of the day. Then daring one of them to knock at the door in such sacred times, you might be an introverted mom.
Lately, baths have become a part of my self care routine. I had a stretch where I hadn’t taken a bath in months. I am talking lots of months. I would just get up take a shower and get moving. Then take me a shower before bed and pass out.
Now, my little introverted heart is all for running me some bath water, locking my bedroom door and leaving my kids to their dad as the “parent of contact” for concern. LOL.
I will say that hubby has a key to get in, in case of an emergency, lol.
What I have come to realize is that motherhood just can't change the fact that I am an introvert.
For a long while I thought there was something wrong with me for feeling like I do. I have come to realize that this is just how I am, and while I can not change my introversion. I can manage it.