Are you your spouses friend? Do you have friendship, true friendship in your marriage?
I had a friend recently tell me, “you have such a blessed and strong marriage”.
I just laughed. I thought if she only knew.
By the time we got done talking, she did though.
She knew that actually my friendship is more important to me than my marriage.
I “met” my best friend earlier in life than I can remember. Her mother and my mother were friends and pregnant together, we were a little over a month apart. I honestly can’t remember any part of my life that she has not been in.
I met my husband when I was thirteen. Eighth grade. In the back of Mrs. White-Reimers english class. He was the new boy.
I aggravated him as great as the day was long. We talked, we laughed we grew closer.
Like my childhood best friend we have had some hard times, some break ups and make ups, some attitudes and fall outs, but there have been good times, and even more great times.
When we got married, it wasn’t that we both sought marriage. We actually were really good with our friendship. Our marriage was a calling, per se.
But just as you can build a beautiful home and it cave because the foundation was not fully formed and tended to, marriage happens the same.
So when my friend said to me that day, “you have such a blessed and strong marriage”. I quickly interjected before she could go any further and told her “I have such a blessed and strong friendship”.
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I understand that everyone is not going to have the luxury of knowing their spouse for 11 years before they actually start dating. But you do have the luxury of building and tending to a solid foundation.