Sometimes all we need is to try changing one simple thing to make a whole world of difference in our ability to deal.
Recently I flat out told you guys about my introversion and how realizing it freed me essentially.
I also shared that it's something that happens even with my family.
But birthing children who want to be all in your space, all of the time, without regards for the fact that they are literally draining you doesn't help.
My oldest hasn't been too bad. And as she gets older she realizes my emotional state and will back away. My youngest however is the giver of no dams when it comes to my emotional state and sense of overwhelm.
Many of my days normally start with a police styled knock on my door followed by the words, “I'm ready for my breakfast”. Leaving me frazzled and woken from good sleep.
When my days start that way, unless there is some sort of major detour that happens the day progressively gets worse. Because shortly after that little one wakes I have the other two.
In past times, there were some days my husband didn't even want to leave me with them.
He'd see the almost teared up eyes as he'd get ready to leave. Only going to work or hanging out with friends.
It left me feeling crazy and incapable of being a good mom at times.
But recently. Right before the holiday season, I made one change that left my husband saying, “I don't know what's different, but you have been doing really good lately..”
You might be intrigued.
By changing one simple thing, I have
- felt better daily
- been better able to ha doe my children
- became more productive daily
- am more pleasant person to be around
What's the one thing?
I started waking up 30-45 minutes before everyone else. Allowing me to get in my quiet time.
Whether it be to journal in my prayer journal, do a devotional or sometimes just sit there in silence with my cup of coffee.
Allowing myself that time was like charging up my batteries and preparing me for all that the day would throw my way.
I had heard it before. People say, “I get up early to do xyz”. And I'd think of the sleep I was already lacking and think no way.
But I have found that even on the days where I didn't get my full 7, which is what I have found my body needs, getting up and giving myself that time changes the game for me.
I am learning new things about myself self all the time.
With that being said, if you
- feel the need to have more alone time and don't have it
- find that you just can't seem to “adult” like you need to
- just need a change